Grindr- Does Anyone On The Datalounge Use It?

I've never used Grindr. I don't want to subject myself to the scrutiny of others by posting an ad there + I don't like the idea of bringing some strangers back to my place or going to their place.

Lots of flakes, tranny chasers, trannies, crossdressers, sissies, drugs and bottoms. Ive had a lot of success crossdressing here lol, not so much otherwise since pickings are slim.

[quote]posting an ad there

I believe they're called "profiles" now, Blanche.

And that was how it was in 2011, when that article was published! Catching up on your reading, are you, OP?

Of course. And Scruff and Sniffies. It’s why gay bars are no longer a thing.

I barely get anything off of it, but have it and go on. I’m in Flyoverstan and don’t get sucked in easily. I see it as putting yourself out there and see what happens.

Don't worry, OP. None of those thousands of gay guys were "the one" for you.

No, absolutely nobody uses GROWLr.

I just call Stanley Steamer. When the fellas cum over with their equipment, I lift my caftan and shriek, "YUM!". Nine times out of ten I can score some cock.

Will never use that shit again. A bunch of narcissistic, stuck up gays who lack any type of decorum or temperance. I met my boyfriend at my local Wendy’s. Sweet, nerdy little Hispanic dude w/ a big bubble butt. Both our incomes are small but together we make ends meet. And I don’t have to worry about him being on apps and in bars like typical faggots. He’s either home playing his PC games or at the local bingo w/ his uncle. My baby

I wish they had grinder when I was young.

Yes I use it occasionally. I'm quite savvy about online hookups so I've never had an issue.

Some of you must be afraid to leave the house or use online banking.

I have a love hate relationship with Grindr. I often delete my account because of the insufferable arrogance and rudeness of most people on there. Of their young age and immaturity. Of the fact there’s a large gap of profiles past 35yo (where do they go instead?). But then I live in a city where basically Grindr is the only way to meet people as it’s a conservative society and no one wants to be seen in gay bars. And I reinstall the app until I’m angry again at the futility of it.

Can people see if you looked at their profile on Grindr? You can see who looked at your profile on Scruff so I never click on anyone’s profile.

R11 “I just want to watch a movie!” LOL

[quote] I often delete my account because of the insufferable arrogance and rudeness of most people on there.

I don't know if you're insufferably delicate or a boorish predator, but I haven't had that experience. Some people are assholes, sure. But that was true (perhaps even more so) in the bars I frequented in my youth in the 80s and 90s. Actually, it was worse in a bar because if you hit on a hot guy who just walked away from you, it happened in front of everyone and you were more or less marked as "undesirable" for the night (even if only in your own mind). Online, no one knows you got rejected.

Also, when I go on Grindr, which is relatively often for someone in his mid-50s, I go mainly just to window shop and kill time for a few minutes. I chat occasionally, make friend once in awhile, and still hookup. But I'm also sensible. Given my age, my decent looks, and my dad bod (10-15 lbs), I do not chase after the 22 year old six-pack Adonis who clearly is just there to be adored, paid, or matched with the same. My preference, luckily for me, is other guys like myself: Middle-aged/older with just a regular life, a sense of humor and a job.

I have lived in small, conservative towns before and used apps to hook up (I was 40ish then). I found there were a lot of guys online, mostly closet cases, and hooking up was fairly easy. I don't recall experiencing much rudeness or meanness online. Maybe it has more to do with what you're bringing to the table? Do you have a negative attitude or unrealistic expectations? Just something to think about.

I guess AIDS is over. Having sex repeatedly with strangers is no longer a health risk.

R17 - It wasn't a health risk then either, once we knew how to protect ourselves and practiced safer sex. Fortunately for you, masturbation is still a lifetime option.

[quote] I met my boyfriend at my local Wendy’s.

You sound fat.

[quote] I guess AIDS is over. Having sex repeatedly with strangers is no longer a health risk.

AIDS is over, gramps, unless you live in a third world country. Gays take PrEP.

I just deleted it. It's shit.

Grindr is to Jeffrey Dahmer is what Skip the Dishes is to everyone else …

Found a husbear on Scruff and never looked back.

I still use it but it's fucking hell with all the straight, bi, and trans narcissists. Finding truly authentic homosexual men on there is difficult and rare. The lying and catfishing is EXTREMELY bad. You have to be very strong to stay on Grindr for anymore than 2 weeks without wanting and needing to delete your account.

I met my boyfriend working over a local bitch named Wendy.

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It's always best to go through a professional concierge service that is scrupulous about adhering to the requirements and creative in providing fresh talent.

When did they implement the feature of being able to see who looked at your profile? I used to look at my saved profiles a lot, especially if they changed pictures or descriptions. I hope they didn’t see I was constantly looking at their profile.

I thought Grindr was owned by the Chinese

Isn't there a bro type of app for straight/bi guys that just want to jo or get blown?

Yes, I do.

But not in the way you think, and with an e.

I have a grinder, uh, I mean I use Grinder. Why don't you come over for dinner some time. I would love to have you.

It's called a restroom Rose R33

[quote]Can people see if you looked at their profile on Grindr?

R14, If you pay for the premium/Unlimited plan, you can be "incognito" so no one will see if you viewed their profile.

I don't like how little free members are so restricted in what they can do. The subscription prices are high for what you get too.

Very overated.

Grindr and other hook-up apps are for guys who are young and hot with big dicks and bubble butts. Everyone else need not apply.

It can be a source of good for the world too.

No. No one on DL has used it, or any other gay sex hookup app. It is just not done here…the old timers here still aren’t sure about the app thingy, hence there loyalty to this ancient, non-user friendly “site” we call DL.

Can I get it on my Nokia 3310 R42?

What’s the number for Grindr?

R33 I’d love for there to be an app to just blow bi/“str8” dudes. Hell I’ll even tip them cash after I swallow their loads. Someone make this app.

You want to pay for straight dick? You type desperate.

R47- Maybe just seek out Straight-ACTING dudes instead

I got kicked off Grindr a while ago and they would never tell me what I did wrong.

They probably figured out you are a Troll R50. Not the chat board type, more the old creepy type that wont leave hot guys alone when they don't respond to your messages.

I see Datalounge as being more Biggercity/Growlr territory.

surprised bbrt is still around.

wasn't a fan of the bb aspect but most whores don't notice.

bro I vibe with Rumblr🙏

R7 I use Growlr, not for sex but for my self esteem.

I may be a Grindr 5, but I'm a Growlr 9.

[quote]the old timers here still aren’t sure about the app thingy,

Apps? I'm not even sure about this new "mail" thingy, either.

I much prefer the Pony Express.

r56 and now they identify as ponies, panic at every new sti/std as if they have no idea what safe sex is and snort every designer drug that comes out... classic coke is just better. can't beat the real thing.

I only get sex from going to a bathhouse. I am the person who started the thread over 11 months ago titled- I Went To A Bathhouse Saturday Night but I have not gone to the bathhouse in almost FOUR months- so I'm not a whore.

I've lost 55 pounds from my peak weight of 274 3/8 pounds in May 2021- so I'm also no longer a FAT WHORE.

The gay future is hookups. No one wants you hanging around all the time trying to talk to them. And there might be someone hotter than you right around the corner.

Future? Hookups have always been gay culture. Regardless, there are still some gay men who want the whole relationship shebang.

R61 Yeah, I did think on using that word after I posted that but it was too late then. Shebang is a weird word - where does it even come from? A gangbang of women?

We just hang around on the corner like always, waiting to see who drives by.

R60 [quote] Future? Hookups have always been gay culture. Regardless, there are still some gay men who want the whole relationship Ze-bang.

FTFY.

But apparently I can't use the Quote tag. I swear that's how I used it before.

I'm too senile or computer illiterate to be posting on a hookup apps thread.

R33 Are you thinking of BRO?

[quote] I got kicked off Grindr a while ago and they would never tell me what I did wrong.

Oh. It was for reasons well known to you.

Sure R70…it was a tv invention?! No.

The word is slang going back more than 150 years. The more you know…

R58

And 3/8 pounds?

Mary! Who measures a pound by fraction?

I’m glad you lost the weight, though :)

Ready for your next bath.

R48 That was hilarious.

Grindr is fun. Plenty of hot guys, plenty of hot sex. However, I still enjoy the subway or gym hookup.

R74- What about the bathhouse hookup?

I went to a bar in Chelsea at happy hour and more then 1/4 of the guys there kept checking Grindr. I was on it when it first came out. I never really chatted with anyone. But it was fun to look and figure who was 700 feet away. I deleated the app when there was a photo of a guy, and he was standing at his window, and you can my apartments window in the photo.

I deleted mine after a guy who said he was homeless and hadn’t bathed In Weeks wanted to come over and have oral sex

Guys literally use it in the locker room in the gym to get more information on others within feet of them. When you think about it, it’s nuts- how about using your eyes, feet and voice and meeting someone, lol. First time I was aware of guys using the apps in a discrete space was at the apres ski at the Limelight bar in ASPEN. Lots of guys were glued to their phones and I asked a friend, what are they doing? They’re using the hookup apps to check each other out- as opposed to their eyes and speaking voices- this was about 2011. I tried it and lasted less than a month. If I am interested in someone in the gym or a bar or anywhere, I talk to them. Imagine that! And it works. Always has.

R40- If someone is a bottom they don't need both a BIG COCK and a BUBBLE ASS- just the later will do and if someone is a top

they don't need a bubble ass just a big cock will do.

How many hookups turn dangerous? I would be wary of bringing people to my home

R80- That's why a bathhouse is best.

The last time I went to a bathhouse ( I did not actually have sex- oh well) but there were plenty of young good looking guys walking around. What do datalounge people think- Why weren't these young good looking guys trolling for sex on Grindr or Scruff?

R2- Dorothy I've never used Grindr as I stated at the beginning and I guess I'm not privy to the latest term for ad.

[quote]I deleated the app when there was a photo of a guy,

Oh dear!

Where do all you bath house queens live? Most of the ones in the U.S. have gone out of business decades ago. I guess NY still has some but that's only a tiny microcosm of the country.

R86- Albany area, NYC, Philadelphia, Chicago, Los Angeles, Berkley.

R88- I think there are two or three in Los Angeles. I don't live there so I'm not certain of the exact number.

Good grief y'all are old. The kiddos these days call you hookups-only folk 'aromantic' and want to give you a stripe on the ever-evolving rainbow flag.

R90- Why do you think there were so many young good looking guys at this bathhouse I went to in October- Were they fed up with Grindr?

Of course I have, grindr has been around since I was about 16, had my very first hookup from it and no I don't regret it. If you expect depth and love from the app, you're setting yourself up for a disappointment.

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And I think there was one in nestbyc Wilmington, California, which closed early in the pandemic?

Seattle still has Club Z, I think, and Steameorje.

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The first night I went on Grindr, the profile of my neighbor’s 18 year old son popped up.

The next day, I happened to see him walking up and down our street, pausing in front of my house when the app was telling him I was 0 feet away.

I then proceeded to block him.

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I am almost 63 and have been on Grindr for one year. I paid for one of the two or premium versions last year for a couple months -- but cancelled as it's too expensive. I just use the free version.

I go on the app several times daily but have intentionally been off it for a few days. Taking ba break. I guess I usually spend 30 minutes or so daily over my many visits. I'm sure some or many young guys can spend hours off and on!?

I'll especially check it here in the Boston area when on the Boston subways, as I pass many colleges and obviously see lots of young guys on the profiles. Or when near the Boston Sheraton at the Prudential Center and the adjoining convention center: can see lots of guys and fresh meat nearby on the app if a big conference is in town.

I include the max five profile pics, so I guess that helps generate whatever interest I get.

But I do miss being able to browse incognito with the premium versions. One, maybe both, allow it. I don't like when guys know I've tapped on their profile. Maybe some guys don't actually care when others know?

I am a bear but do get some interest on Grindr. Not a lot, as some guys my age seem to insist happens from many young guys. Nope, not seeing that too much...but still grateful for anybody who taps the flame icon after seeing my pic and profile.

Some do want to meet or a few say I am good looking,... so that's definitely an ego boost!

It's fun to sit in the waiting room at my mostly-gay community health center and check Grindr and often see profiles one foot, 10 feet, 200 feet away, whether live or from the past hour or so. I do look around but can't seem to locate that person. But aren't distances maybe distorted a bit, I guess for everyone's safety?

I am glad I discovered it last year, and do look forward to going back on very soon, after this kind of atypical three-day hiatus.

R96 do you get laid, or not, using Grindr?

R94 I almost always block if their profile states they live near me, I can't be bothered with that drama on my doorstep.

r80 this may shock you.... most don't.

Duh, most men use it if not they use other apps like Grindr, (hello Tinder).

What I never got was Scruff. Sounds like an app for fat hairy guys. If that’s your thing, cool, but sounds musty.

R101, Free Scruff does not have those annoying pop up ads that Grindr has that freeze your screen.

Plus, Scruff offers international profiles, which can be interesting.

[quote] Plus, Scruff offers international profiles, which can be interesting.

If you're a flight steward.

R103, There are numerous hot Canadian profiles on Scruff, not that far from me in Massachusetts.

Infrequently. I live in a fairly small town, so it's slim pickings in the immediate vicinity. Though sometimes you do get hot farmer types who aren't into the whole 'scene' thing.

I only live 25 miles from a big city, which means there's a lot more choice if I expand the scope of the search, but I'd always have to travel to them, because city gays think anything further than about two miles away is "too far".

I also find some guys who are in my league clearly think they're above me, but also I've been contacted and met guys who I think are better looking than me. So it's always impossible to know when contacting a guy if he's likely to have any interest, even if you meet the criteria in his profile. So it's very hit and miss.

R105, Hit or miss would be more accurate.

The media forever and always be anti-gay. Gay men will always be the bogeyman.

R96- I enjoy stories like yours. I am 57 and as I said at the beginning of this thread- I’ve never used Grindr but your fairly good fortune 🔮 on the app intrigued me.

R108- The TRANS LOONS hate us too.

You’re 57? That’s almost 58!

I get blocked all the time as soon as I send a picture. I used to have much more luck with CL.

R3- I guess the guy in that photo is it some young cute thing anymore.

-I’m not some young cute thing anymore either

It's just a tool, like any other tool. It depends on how you use it.

Grindr is a brand new and upcoming app that is on the cutting edge. Have you heard about this thing? Sharing your thoughts and opinions about it very relevant. Hot topic.

R117- Next I'm starting a thread about something called the I phone- it's like carrying around your own desktop computer.

[r113] I’m 34….I’m too fem for the butch guys but too butch for the femme guys. I’m too old for the younger guys and too young for the older guys, or too young for the guys who want a Daddy. I’m too fat for the fit guys but too thin for the guys that want a husky bear. I’m clean shaven. Sometimes guys are nice and say “Sorry you aren’t my type” but mostly they just block or stop responding.

Two bathhouses here in Toronto are busy with all types of men at least 3-4 nights a week. I find the atmosphere and hooking-up process much more direct and straightforward than the sometimes endless back-and-forth chat on the apps.

R119- From my point of view 57- 34 years old is still young but when I was 34 years old I thought I was old already. I thing fem guys usually love butch guys- even though they're always bitching about toxic masculinity and femiphobia etc.

[quote] Shebang is a weird word - where does it even come from? A gangbang of women?

R62 here you are, dear.

R119- FUCK THEM ALL- I hate people.

Maybe try a bathhouse- if there's one in your area

The obvious thing to say with Grindr, and all these apps, is that they are only showing you people who are close by. If you’re interested in anything other than proximity you have to pay to filter out people based on other factors.

[quote]in a discrete space

Oh, dear.

[quote] just the later will do

Oh, dear!

[quote] [[R113]] I’m 34….I’m too fem for the butch guys but too butch for the femme guys. I’m too old for the younger guys and too young for the older guys, or too young for the guys who want a Daddy. I’m too fat for the fit guys but too thin for the guys that want a husky bear. I’m clean shaven. Sometimes guys are nice and say “Sorry you aren’t my type” but mostly they just block or stop responding.

If by chance you’re in Long Island City, Greenpoint, or Astoria, hit me up. I won’t block.

[quote]I met my boyfriend at my local Wendy’s.

I met mine at the national one.

I think I'm too nice for Grindr, because when a guy sends me a pic and I don't find him attractive, I usually don't block or ignore straight away. I tend to make a few small replies and then wait for the conversation to fizzle out.

I just feel too bad instantly blocking.

Being nice doesn't cost you anything and some people must appreciate it. Good for you.

All the apps are the same and everyone is on all the apps. It's so odd when people say "I gave up on Grindr and moved to Scruff."

It's like musical chairs Everyone is on every major app. People get frustrated and concentrate on another for a while.

I would go back on an ap if they made it "over 55 for over 55".

I’ve been off for five years now, since I met my now husband (on Tinder). Grindr was for instant sex with twinks, Scruff for dates with 30-40s men, and I had two other Tinder relationships before my now permanent one.

Grindr had two cannibals. I guess it's known by all?

I think of Grindr like drag bars with mostly straight clientele, like Finnochio's in SF or The Baton in Chicago.

Hmm...I'm still confused on the workings of the blocking feature on Grindr.

How does blocking someone on Grindr work?

Like a poster above, I guess I am too nice to actually block someone. And yes, sometimes I keep replying to his messages and dick pics though not interested, just hoping he'll lose interest sans my needing to hurt him by ignoring him.

If I block someone, he will never again see my profile in the grid?

Or he will see it, but be unable to click on it?

And how do I know if I've been blocked? If I click on a profile too often and he's not interested, I guess he then would likely block me? Which means I'll never see his entry ever again on the grid...or I will still see it but be unable to click on it?

Thanks.

Blocked = they can't see you, period

Just tell them you're a motel desk clerk, gas station attendant, cashier, security officer, nursing home aide... They'll realize you're poor and ghost you.

R131, in my own experience, Grindr and Scruff are vastly different. Scruff caters for an older, more mature crowd (I’d say 35+) than Grindr. People with better manners than the 20 something twinks that roam Grindr and ask you straight away “T? B? Dick size?”. Also, the fact that Scruff encourages its members to write actual profiles (sometimes very lengthy) makes it a far more interesting experience, just like in the days in Gaydar in the 00’s.

Gay.com circa 2000 was the best site for hooking up.

The app has turners people batshit. Some local guy was messaging me which I was being polite by replying but with an "I'm not interested" subtext. Next thing he's all "did I see you at the railway station this morning?" (uh-oh). At that point I politely told him he wasn't my type and he goes on a rant about how I should have just blocked him. What a world! Another guy, when I turned him down, scolded me for having the 'Right Now' option on my profile yet not wanting to meet him. Toots, it's "Right Now" not "Right Now with You". If someone behaved this way to me in person I'd bray the tar out of them.

LA only has one bath house left that I know of. FLEX in east Hollywood.

Midtown Spa closed last year as did the one 1350 in Wilmington. Hollywood Spa closed over a decade ago.

I imagine that for the less desirable among us, the experience of going on Grindr is similar to getting picked last for sport teams. It can be an utterly humiliating, soul-crushing experience to have others judge you as being totally worthless. No, thank you.

Most DLers are so old they need a Food Grindr.

Slammer is still there, no? It’s pretty much an experience like the baths…with clothes not towels.

R143- Perhaps it's more akin to going to a gay bar and having every attractive guy you try to start a conversation with SNUB you.

[quote]I'd bray the tar out of them.

Then would you put them in the hoosegow, sheriff?

Sniffies is even worse than Grindr. The most disgusting people ever on there and I hate how they delete convos (which you can see for whatever reason) like passive-aggressive little girls just to talk to you again (because they forget they deleted you). Gaydar is great but barely anyone on there. I've had actual connections and made good friends on there.

Sniffies is for a hotel cumdump or quickie blowjob. It is quite efficient for those purposes, at least here in Manhattan.

I don’t understand Sniffies. Am I supposed to hook up with someone who just shows a picture of his ass?

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